There's this section about stopping complaining, Amy and I have talked about it - I'm getting better but it's tough. I think that it becomes such a second nature habit that often, I'll complain without even realizing it!
Jack talks about how when you do complain, "you're complaining to the wrong person..."
I'm super guilty of this. If I'm aggravated with my boss, I'll complain to my sister and if my spouse is driving me crazy, I'll complain to a friend. Why? Why do I do this? I think it's because there's something I want to internally discuss/fix/change/address but I'm fearful. Fearful of making that person upset and fearful of feeling uncomfortable. This is a bad habit. Jack says, "successful people replace complaining with making requests and taking action."
I've been such a passive, people pleasing person for so much of my life. Always afraid of making others upset. I've done way better with this over the course of the last few years but I find it easy to slip into "complaining" mode rather than "action" mode.
Truth is, not only are you more successful when you have control over the outcome of things, but I personally feel so much happier when I am changing /influencing and at very least "being heard" on matters.
I'm going to keep working on this one!
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