In Principle #3 Jack talks about our responsibility in honoring our needs and wants... no matter how small they are, they matter.
Jack recounts the story of being assigned a yellow notebook. He hated that color but was going to just accept it since it was assigned. When the instructor encouraged them to switch if they preferred another color, he realized the importance of honoring your feelings and making choices no matter how big or small.
Jack stresses that whenever you are given the chance to make a choice, make it. Express an opinion. Never say, "I don't care" or "it doesn't matter." No matter how mundane, this gets us in touch with what we really need and want. When you put others first, you put yourself down in a way.
I've been guilty of this my whole life. I usually "defer" to the other person. I'll shrug off stuff but deep down inside, really wanted something else. I've become very used to "swallowing" my feelings and "going with the flow." I am often so concerned with pleasing others that I forget to please myself.
Now to be fair, over the years I've recognized this flaw and have been working on this for some time. So I definitely have come a long way. But, I still have a way to go. I'm definitely going to practice having opinions a lot more often. Sorry everyone - I may be a pain in the ass but I like my notebooks pink.
xo
Jen
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